Tips to Overcome Shyness

Oleh Denmas Ulin

Monday, January 5, 2015

The shame is something very self-defeating. Shame indeed should - okay, as long as embarrassed to do something evil. But what if shame is in all respects. As embarrassed to speak, shy stare at people, even embarrassed to reveal the truth. Of course this is not our desire.
Here are 10 tips to learn to overcome shyness, nervousness and fear in yourself:

1. Strengthen Personality / Price Yourself.
Weakening result in lower self-esteem and personality triggers the fear society. Someone felt nothing. Feeling less than others. Therefore, he prefers silence. Did not dare to speak in public, nor lift a hand to the sound in the lecture.

2. Do not be ashamed of your shame.
Accept yourself for what it is, nothing less or more. After that, you will appreciate yourself internally, then love yourself also internally a lot of opportunities to clean, more wide open success.
3. Do not be afraid of other people's opinions. Criticism and suggestions from others is one of our best teachers, which of these criticisms can build for us improve kelebih well again at the next opportunity.

4. Ask for advice closest (parents) about the emergence of shame.
ask for opinions, advice or suggestion nearest eg parent or brother / sister, why and how that shame was lost or because of pressure from a party or a lack of compassion of parents and then on it can exchange opinions with a parent or brother / sister.

5. Often Gathered By Comrade.
Joke, jokes and laughter with friends can also meminimalisirkan shame us. In general jia embarrassed the school we go forward because there is alien with a friend so often gather to make us familiar with the environment of our friends.

6. Learn to speak Like the already powerful Speaker
Reassure yourself that your friends / people who watch you guys have the same ability when speaking in front of an audience (viewers). Accept with open hearts all constructive criticism, criticism was very useful for the development of your insight.

7. Do not be afraid of.
Never be afraid of making something of truth. Because if you are always afraid of one then you will not be able to start anything. And of course, it became one of the factors bringing shame on yourself as well in others.

8. Breathe With Calm.
Before speaking in front, facing the exam and interview for example pull a deep breath, occasionally pull back a deep breath back that feeling and body become calm and Relax.

9. Think positive.
always think positive, do not always humble myself "ah sure I can not, surely my friends laugh at me, my brain is definitely not dilute" the words were often mentioned by school children. Avoid! Make yourself the greatest "I can do it!", "I'm going to fight!".

10. Approach People That Have Been Successful repel embarrassment.
For example, parents, teachers and resource persons to consult psychologists such problems, and raises the question to them "How the hell ?, what the hell? and so on until you find a solution repel shame.